The Dangers of Falling in Love (Part 1)

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Songs of Solomon 8:6: “Set me as a seal upon your heart, As a seal upon your arm; For love is as strong as death… Its flames are flames of fire, A most vehement flame..” (NKJV)

This morning I’ll be sharing briefly with us on the subject of love and the dangers of falling in love. I didn’t think I’ll be sharing this until I got on the bus and it became a prompting in my spirit. As I write, I’m reflecting on the countless open and disguised posts, comments, display pictures (DPs), profile messages (PMs) and even the kind of books and songs we read and play on various social media outlets, they are largely suggestive of one thing – a breaking, broken , wounded or healing heart. A couple of months ago a young man in Ghana was reported to have committed suicide, leaving behind a suicide note, because of a lady he loved who left him. While his picture roamed the web and various social media with insults, I paused and realized that there is a force, so strong, that men, if given to, would give their life for – Love.

In doing justice to this topic, I’ve decided to consult no other person than the man whom history describes to have had more relationships with women, tribes and people than any man known – King Solomon. In one of his books, Songs of Solomon chapters 8 verse 6 (See Anchor Above), he begins by saying, “Set me as a seal upon your heart …” Why was he admonishing the need to set a seal upon our hearts? We recall that Proverbs 4:23 says,

“Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life. (NKJV)” 

In relating with these two scriptures, it becomes clear that King Solomon identifies that whatever can get into the heart of a man can take over the whole of a man. In medical and biological sciences, we are made to understand that naturally, the function of the heart is to carry blood to every part of the body, hence it is proven that if you can poison a man’s heart, you can kill that man, because the heart by nature evenly distributes whatever it has to all members of the body. King Solomon is not suggesting to us but in a way insisting that there is a need to set a seal upon our heart, in other words, to have a standard, a door of checks and balances that examines who and what goes into our heart.

In relation to falling in love, King Solomon is trying to say, if you are careless or unreasonable about whoever you grant entry into your heart, you’ll have been careless to will your entire self; spirit, soul and body to a total stranger. Another point I want to draw from this is the word ‘SET’ that introduces the entire verse. What does it mean? It means, contrary to the general believe that love is blind, that we can fall in love without knowing… it insists that to fall in love is actually and totally a choice. It’s not some stone or height that we stumble on or fall from (if directly defined.) Love is absolutely a choice you make. I have heard ladies say, ‘he was very nice, he did this and did that and before I knew, I fell in love with him…’ but the truth remains that every act of the opposite sex for which we claim we fell in love, did not happen overnight, they were like promptings to our hearts, daily, hourly or weekly transactions to which we gradually nodded ‘yes’ to until we let our seals down and let them into our hearts (our entire being.) It is important that we come to agree that that lady or gentlemen did not charm or seduce us without our consent, no matter our claims; it still remains a fact that somewhere on our inside we danced to their tune and removed our seals. It is important at this point, for us to know that need to guard or set a seal over our hearts is not an option but a mandatory obligation to each and every one of us.

While I leave us to meditate on this before we continue this discussion, I’ll like to ask someone reading this, ‘Do you have a seal over your heart or do people just walk in and walk out like a city without walls?’ Maybe that explains why you have suffered more heartbreaks than your forefathers put together. Maybe that explains why you are bitter, feel cheated and can’t trust anyone any more. But the problem is not those who came into your life and messed things up, the problem is a question of who opened the door and let them in, the problem is YOU!

Irrespective of how many times you have let your guard down or broken the seal over your life, irrespective of how devastated your life is and how bad you feel and think things can no longer be fixed in your life, I have good news for you. You can take a stand today and set a seal over your heart and by so doing stop every advancement of unauthorized persons into your life.

Do you feel totally damaged and feel like committing a suicide or dying right now as a result of a recent heart break? Pray with me:

Dear heavenly father, I’m helpless, hurt and wounded and my life makes no meaning to me anymore. But unto you I call, heal my heart and set a seal over it by your spirit. Help me know your love for me, help me forgive and find peace and that person you designed to fill my life with love and joy through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

Remain Blessed.

Melchizedek, son of Michael

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