Anchor:
Songs of Solomon 8:6: “Set me as a seal upon your heart, As a seal upon your arm; For love is as strong as death… Its flames are flames of fire, A most vehement flame..” (NKJV)
In Part 1 of our discussion, we
were able to point out some key factors about falling in love and the state of
the heart; we were able to note that;
- Contrary to common opinion, love is not blind and we don’t actually ‘fall’ in love, we walk into it, it’s a decision we actually make either consciously or unconsciously.
- We also made it clear that the heart is the center of our being and whomever we let into it, we automatically grant that person a right over our spirit, soul and body.
- And we concluded that irrespective of whoever we have let into our hearts, which made a mess of things, we can still find hope and renewing in Christ Jesus.
On this note, we forge ahead to
conclude this admonition.
"Love is a force; it is actually the greatest force in the whole universe. Like a mighty rushing wind or a raging flood, it is capable of throwing a full grown man off his feet. It’s so strong that God in His Almightiness gave His Only Begotten Son (Jesus) for You and I."
From our Anchor scripture, we
read the concluding part ‘…for love is as strong as death… its flames are
flames of fire, a most vehement flame.’ These short but strong lines are the
very key indicators that spark when the dangers of falling in love are
highlighted. As I meditate on this verse, I imagine love as a mighty water that
usually stands at the door of our heart, we can’t be too sure about controlling
it, we can’t be too sure how much measure of it would rush in when we open up
the doors of our heart just a little. Love is a force; it is actually the
greatest force in the whole universe. Like a mighty rushing wind or a raging
flood, it is capable of throwing a full grown man off his feet. It’s so strong
that God in His Almightiness gave His Only Begotten Son (Jesus) for You and I. There
is a major mistake we make, time and again, we often think we can control love
but that’s not true. We can, and should control our emotions which are the
locks on the door of our heart but we must know that love, like its sisters
(joy, peace…) cannot be measured, they have a way of taking us by surprise. If
we can however put our emotions under control, we would have been able to ‘control’
the measure of love and to whom we give it to in our lives.
"There is a major mistake we make, time and again, we often think we can control love but that’s not true. We can, and should control our emotions which are the locks on the door of our heart but we must know that love, like its sisters (joy, peace…) cannot be measured, they have a way of taking us by surprise."
I have seen relationships where
the lady (quite often the case but not necessarily) was constantly being abused
by this man she loved. Although she had to put up with his drinking and smoking
and beating her up, cheating on her, accusing her and even demanding money from
her, she just couldn’t stop loving him. We may sit back and call her stupid and
even make claims that you and I are not that dump, but the truth is we are
merely underestimating the power and the force of love and do not grasp its
superiority over the potent power of death. I once was in a relationship with a
lady who cheated on me on several occasions, given the gift of visions and
dreams, I would have a dream of her stabbing me in the back, hugging different
men and all that. I would wake up with the interpretations of these dreams,
call her and ask her if she was cheating on me, she would deny it, cry and
claim that I didn’t trust her. I would beg her and butcher myself for ‘accusing’
her but every time she cheated on me, I would somehow catch her red-handed. I
was so fortunate that some of her secret lovers became my friends by chance and
disclosed how they had dated her behind my back. But in ALL these, I would
forgive her, beg her and believe that she would somehow change and be faithful.
I tried to do everything I could, broke my promises and principles and bank
accounts and all for her but she didn’t change and she cheated and broke up
with me but I couldn’t stop loving her – such is the power of love, stronger
than death. It’s like a vehement fire; it consumes the entirety of our being.
Like water, fire is one of the
elements that can barely be controlled: on a candle stick, on a burning stove,
in a furnace, it looks under control, friendly and working for our good but it
is naturally restless and always looking for avenues to express itself; it has
no friends, it has no foes. Such is Love. Such is the danger of falling in
love.
"Like water, fire is one of the elements that can barely be controlled: on a candle stick, on a burning stove, in a furnace, it looks under control, friendly and working for our good but it is naturally restless and always looking for avenues to express itself; it has no friends, it has no foes. Such is Love. Such is the danger of falling in love."
Then comes the question, ‘Are you saying we should not fall in love?’ No!
The argument is this, in realizing that Love is stronger than death, that it is
a force, a fire that we can’t truly control, it becomes our ultimate
responsibilities to ensure that we fall in love with the right persons. If we
fall in love with the right person, we are like candles ignited by the fires of
love, gently melting away but emanating the beauty of light; neither the thread
or the wax feels threatened by the fire, they both begin and die together. But
to fall in love with the wrong person is like wool before fire, a burning house;
there is no beauty, just chaos, confusion and casualties. We get burnt, and if
the fire is not put out immediately, we burn out, and could ultimately lose our
lives.
"If we fall in love with the right person, we are like candles ignited by the fires of love, gently melting away but emanating the beauty of light; neither the thread or the wax feels threatened by the fire, they both begin and die together. But to fall in love with the wrong person is like wool before fire, a burning house; there is no beauty, just chaos, confusion and casualties. We get burnt, and if the fire is not put out immediately, we burn out, and could ultimately lose our lives."
Are you currently in an abusive
relationship or in love with someone who doesn’t love you in return? Perhaps
you are feeling helpless and restless, maybe defending him or her and
pretending that all is going well and hoping that this habit, abuse… would
change by magi, my dear, the truth is you are in love and you may be totally
wrong. You need help, you can still call your emotions to order and quench this
strange fire before you are completely burnt out. The aim of love is to love
till death do us part but it has to be with the right person, someone who is
equally ready to give their all for you as you would for them. Someone you can
be happy with all the days of your live, someone you would wish to marry again
if there was ever an opportunity to return to the world again and re-begin
life. You may not need to, You MUST have to talk to your parents, a counselor,
your pastor and elder or someone responsible and trustworthy about your current
predicament. Believe you me, that lady or gentleman is not the best of the rest
in the world, you can truly find another man or woman who brings joy and
satisfaction to your life today. However, you need to talk to God about it, to
invite Jesus into your heart, to restore order and love and say ‘peace be still’
to every flood of love that has ravaged, blinded and devastated your being
because of the wrong persons.
Kindly say this prayer with me,
‘Lord Jesus, I call upon you to help me, to restore peace and sanity to my heart and place your seal by your Holy spirit upon my heart. Deliver me from every bondage of love to the wrong persons, open my eyes and my mind of understanding, help me find my way and the one who truly loves me according to your will for me, so that I may live my life without bitterness and hatred and anger in Jesus name. Amen.'
Have you said this prayer, have
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Remain Blessed.
Melchizedek, son of Michael
