DON'T BLAME IT ON LOVE

Have you ever had your heart dashed against a rock, broken, like glass, into a thousand pieces? These experiences are becoming a lot more frequent in our modern day as the value placed on morality as fallen from the costly price of diamond to crawl like the price of common salt.
There are more people who want to use you or abuse you more than there are who want to build you and be with you. Although more promises are made, more hearts are broken and the hairs of promise are so unkempt like a mad man's.

These turn of events have forced more people to become lovers of themselves, hoping that by so doing, they'll have no reason to trust anyone other than themselves, in order just to avoid the often traumatic experience that has forced a number of people into committing suicide, indulging in masturbation, un-affectionate relationships (friends with benefits), homosexuality and or lesbianism. Unfortunately even the rise in Feminism is from a forced angle of disappointments by men among women - either as victims of rape or marital abuse.

Who then is to blame?
While the argument persists (to eternity) as to who's to blame between men and women, it is good to note that a lot more people have actually given up on the person and or idea of Love.
Nowadays we hear folks say, 'I don't believe in Love', 'Love doesn't exist!' and so on and so on. But majority of those who say so still bare a grudge or carry a weight of unforgiveness for someone they loved (still love) but show hatred towards for breaking their hearts.

When I began to reflect on this after a series of back-to-back hearts breaks, and then I realised that we may blame Love or refuse to believe in Love when those we love disappoint us, but it's not Love that is the problem, it's the people we fall in Love with. You see, Love is: real, pure, true, faithful, patient, humble, sincere and understanding. John, in one of his books in the Bible describe Love in the simplest, yet powerful way, he says 'God is Love.' Wow! I actually didn't understand this until my spirit was opened up to the understanding of that line of words. Have you tried to imagine the hardest criminal, prostitute, liar, killer...? Irrespective of what they've done, God ultimately forgives them once they repent. Imagine walking through the streets of gold in heaven, and seeing someone who murdered a family you knew, or wrecked your life? Won't it be annoyingly incredible! You see, that's how loving God is. He is so generous in Loving that He is called Love. So Loving that He gave His Only Son, Jesus to die for the sins of all men, that they may be saved.

To whatever extent we have been badly hurt, and how angry, disappointed or suicidal we feel, that is the same capacity we have to be loving, forgiving and accommodating again. Of cos, this doesn't mean we should foolishly run back into the arms of those who have used and abused us, but we must be willing to let go, and let our hearts be open (by wisdom) to new people who are willing to walk the mile with us and who are ultimately worth the while.

Here's my testimony and confession many years back, 'Since I fell in Love, I never stood up; That's what real men and women do!
I'm Real, what about You?

- Melchizedek, son of Michael (Photo Credit: Google)

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LABOUR

There is something staggering about women that won’t cease to amaze me, the United Nations argues that about 830 women die daily (globally) from pregnancy or childbirth related causes. This is said to be equivalent to about one woman every two minutes. Although the rise in modern medicine and advancements in science has reduced maternal death rate, women still have complications. The joy and stunner of the whole statistic is that; 

WOMEN WONT STOP GETTING PREGNANT! 

Wow! There have been rumors of women screaming during labour, cursing their husbands and saying they’ll never do it again, but almost a year down the line, they are back with their backs in the theater beds pushing out the baby (ies). The truth is, regardless of the pains, risks and complications associated with pregnancy and childbirth, our women are more than willing to go to labour. Why? Because when they are going through the thrusts of sex, they ultimately do their best to look beyond the labour, they tune their ears, not to their cry but the cry of their baby, not to their pains but the joy of having a child they can call their own. There is a lesson in this.  

As the global treads of hunger and poverty, collapse of currencies, inadequacies of government, increase in corruption, intolerances of people and citizens continue, our attentions are quickly drawn to the increasing need to labour all the more. As a child I bought a bottle of coke for #2, then #5, but that same bottle of coke costs about #70 now. Sweets that used to be sold in kobos now costs about five strained pieces for #20. What #100 could afford about a year ago, it can no longer boast of.

My late father once told me not to expect anything in form of a will from him, he said, ‘my father was a farmer and didn’t own a bicycle, if I trusted in his inheritance, all I’ll have are cutlasses, hoes and a farm.’ That said, it becomes striking in our age that increasingly, young men and women are becoming lazier, they want the rollercoaster kind of life, they want cheap and free things; pizzas and salads, trips to Dubai, shopping in the US, riding a 2015 model car and more. That’s why you hear very silly statements like ‘If someone can just dash me a million dollars.’ uttered with such seriousness. We all want to be made without going through the process of making.

In the Book of Lamentations Chapter 3 verse 27, New King James Version (NKJV), the writer says:  

“It is good for a man to bear the yoke in his youth.”

While many young men and women are refusing to labour in the days of their youth, they ultimately cannot see ahead to the labour, yoke they are automatically endangering their old age to. Another passage of the Holy Bible says in Proverbs, ‘The glory of young men is their strength.’ Strength as we know is for work, and work equals force times distance (that’s labour.)

If we are to attain a great future, to realize our dreams and be able to afford all that we desire on earth, it is imperative that we learn from the women to labour now for the joy of what we desire to birth in our lives.

-          Melchizedek, son of Michael   

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